Here’s why not having it all can be a great thing
“You can have it all–just not at the same time.” -Sophia Amoruso
As an entrepreneur, author, integrative dietitian, mother, wife, friend, daughter, chef, organizer, laundress, and about a hundred other things, I wholeheartedly agree.
You can’t have it all at the same time, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s a really great thing.
If I’m crushing it in one area of my life–writing, counseling clients, spending time with my boy–the other parts of my life take a hit. It’s inevitable, and the reason it’s inevitable is to preserve our sanity and our long-term health.
I remember training for the NYC marathon when I was 29 so I could run it when I was 30. It was my life at the time–work and running. I was single and was able to take amazing care of myself with a squeaky clean diet, lots of sleep and rest, and a regular work schedule. If I took that on now, I would have to give something up (probably sleep) and I just don’t have the bandwidth or desire to do it. I choose to prioritize my family and although I take super good care of myself, my workouts are more balanced and focused so I can get the job done in a shorter amount of time. They’re also less wear and tear on my nervous system and my joints so I can sustain them for years to come.
I see this happen with clients, too. Two of my clients both went through 20lb weight loss transformations in 11 weeks. One client did this through the Christmas holiday season, and the other client did this through two moves in a short period of time. Both did it through diet alone with minimal exercise. Not because they didn’t want to exercise, but because it was not a priority for either one. It wasn’t good or bad–it just was what it was. Both still got results, and now both have since added in working out. But it was ONE thing at a time that led to the weight loss. Shift, adjust, level out, level up. Lather, rinse, repeat.
I have another client who wants to lose weight while also weaning off antidepressants. We started just by changing up her breakfast and waited until she mastered that. Then we played with her lunch. The pounds have started coming off, slowly but surely.
Be mindful of where your focus needs to be. Do one thing and master that before you take on the world. It will still get done, and it will be far more sustainable in the long run. Consistency can carve canyons and move mountains. Learn to make peace with where you’re at so you can free up mental real estate to enjoy the other pieces of your beautiful, badazz life.
So speaking of which, I am proud to offer A Gorgeous Year of Saying Yes (to you!). This is for those people who have either worked with me in the past and want to keep the magic going, or for those embarking on major life changes and are looking at the big picture for creating long-term changes but want a partner to help co-create and execute a vision like weight loss, healthy eating, addressing a health problem, career changes, and anything else you can cook up for yourself. Either way, it’s allllll about leveling up. There are a few different ways we can work together so you can make the magic happen on your terms. Simply respond to this email if you’re interested and we’ll get cooking! Five spots are available, so grab yours now.